In the process, we’ve lost our True North (God's Truth). This equates to a philosophy of life that looks to oneself or the “norms” of society to define what is acceptable and what is not-acceptable.Notice I did not say what is “right or wrong,” as the principles of right and wrong are no longer valid without absolute morals to establish their foundational basis, and our children get this point all too well.Parents and youth workers can play an important role in equipping kids to navigate the dating years.
You see, I didn't realize how common it was for parents to actually allow and even encourage pre-teens to go out on single dates without any supervision, or even be in the home alone with no chaperone.This astounded me—someone who often gets asked for advice on ways to help teens stay pure.The apostle Paul summed up the Christian attitude when he said: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.I wanted to confirm what I suspected—that it was a family outing and the boy was allowed to join them. She assured me that she and her also-twelve-year-old boyfriend were driven to the mall and dropped off, where they had dinner in the food court, wandered around for an hour, and then went to a movie. My intention has always been to do as my parents did and not let my kids date until they were sixteen—hoping they'd choose to wait even longer.
But I suddenly had to face the fact that I wasn't reading the situation clearly enough—I had blinders on.
Our youth’s views on dating have just followed this same pathway.
Yet, as parents, we can help our children get back on a God-honoring path when it comes to dating.
Eventually, the group see the pair as a couple committed to each other.
Parents need to be aware of terminology used by their teen and should ask him/her what the terms really mean to them.
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