People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women who are dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.
Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.
It’s about attracting men, understanding men, and making them want to stick around forever and ever. As to where you meet men, yes, there’s one place that’s more effective in making introductions than 100 visits to Whole Foods and Art History class combined.
For those of you in your 40s or 50s who are recently divorced, widowed, or just eager to re-partner, dating again can be daunting. As two independent people with separate lives, you are probably more capable than your younger counterparts to nurture the three entities needed for a healthy partnership; “I,” “You,” and “We.” With enhanced self-awareness and father/mother-time on your side, there is a greater likelihood that you will make better choices, avoid previous destructive patterns, and build more lasting relationships. History has a way of repeating itself unless you mindfully replace your old dependencies and fears with new patterns of behavior. Your priorities are in order and you know the benefits of being real. Post-Divorce Healing and Rediscovering Your SELF,” Deborah Hecker, Ph. is a psychotherapist with over 35 years of private practice experience. In addition, she is certified as a psychoanalyst and has extensive training in the following areas: addiction counseling, grief counseling, collaborative practice and mediation.
Perhaps it’s been a while since you’ve been “on the market”. You have made friends and let them go when they were not supportive. However, in some respects dating in your 40s and 50s is quite similar to dating in your 20s and 30s. She received her Master’s Degree from Columbia University and her Ph.
Don’t assume you and your partner see things in the same way or that your partner can read your mind. Moments will arise when your judgment about your partner will be put to the test. Like you, your partner is imperfect and deserves the benefit of the doubt. Keep in mind that a good relationship is based on each person’s ability to be supportive of those differences.
It is not possible that your “I” and your partner’s “I” will be perfectly compatible.
Every day I get emails from women who want one-on-one dating coaching but don’t want to try online dating.
Rather than dip your toe in the water and give up because you’re intimidated, I highly encourage you to check out Finding the One Online, in which I hold your hand through the entire online dating process, from getting over your fears, to choosing a website, to writing a profile, to flirting with men and so on.
If not, what exactly are we going to talk about for 12 weeks?
I tell each one the same exact thing: “If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching.
So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
A previous marriage, no matter how short, is the relationship equivalent of earning a college degree. Having been married doesn’t mean you’re any better or worse at relationships than someone who’s never tied the knot.