It really depends on the people involved, and the reasons why they get married when they do. Most people realize that you shouldn’t get married too quickly after meeting someone, and the one long-term study I’ve found on the subject seems to back that up.
There are a couple of reasons why a short dating period can cause problems in marriage: Marriage is really about commitment, so the real question is whether you are willing to commit to this person for the rest of your life, and whether you can trust them when they say they’re willing to do the same. Now, sometimes you can trust them more quickly if other trustworthy people have known the person through close community for a long time, and can vouch for them.
Which we were already sort of aware of, but the more interesting question is why.
Ok, so you’ve found “The One.” Maybe you’ve been dating for as little as a few weeks or as long as a few years. What circumstances do you consider before taking the steps to tie the knot? Do financial situations or job security affect your decision?
How long is too long to wait for a serious commitment, if you know you’re ready for a ring?
People used to frown upon premarital cohabitation, despite young couples' insistence that it was the best way to test out long-term compatibility (also known as The Ability To Avoid Homicide Charges After He Leaves The Seat Up For The 37th Time). This one is about more than the logistics of living together.
Now, couples are throwing out that very same excuse for their extended courtships...
That’s actually the preferred situation, because then you have multiple sets of eyes confirming that this person is who they appear to be.
But don’t just take your boyfriend or girlfriend’s word for it. That same study said that people who dated a very long time before marriage—like a number of years—were also less likely to stay married.Would you ever give your significant other an ultimatum, and how long would you wait?by Emory University researchers Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon may have found out. Middle-class couples earning between ,000-125,000 differ little from one another. Studies show that 2 to 3 years is the sweet spot when it comes to how long couples should date before marriage. This is simply because it takes time to get to know each other well enough for marriage. If you have been dating for more than three years but none of you, or one of you, is still not ready for marriage, you need to evaluate your relationship.A strong marriage, in other words, is an intentional one.