I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.
Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.
Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all.
Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him?
Beside this you have to see at few factors Accepatnce ; Are you comfortable with the fact that you will be questioned time and time again for the choice you are making, considering age and other security with regards to health and wealth .
Family ; Love is not done in isolation our familiy and society is a part to it , you would be ok with the idea or loving , what about your family? Society: when you walk with your boyfriend at time you would be taunted for walking with an uncle or any elder for that matter, you would have to take all these comments without feeling bad or regretting your decision Future : you got to vision , how you plan to move forward and family growth in times to come, it's not very big issue but still to be dealt with .
Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier.
I know this firsthand, as I’m 25 years old, and I’ve been dating an older guy nearly 15 years my senior for almost four years.
Then a few realisations fell into place: firstly, nobody is sorted. Secondly, it was hardly surprising that I connected with somebody much older – Kevin Mc Cloud was one of my teenage-crushes.