The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.
Practicing Honest Communication Determining What You Want Maintaining Boundaries and Commitments Community Q&A Not everyone is ready to settle down with one partner.Some people choose to have multiple relationships at once for their whole lives.[Read: How to read mixed signals from a girl and turn it into love] Why do some girls just lead guys on? But almost always, the girl who’s leading you on probably likes you, but she needs more time to make up her mind about whether she really wants to date you. [Read: 18 easy failproof ways to get a girl to fall in love with you] A few girls could lead a guy on because they want some drama in their own lives, or because they like getting a guy’s attention. Or in some circumstances, the girl who’s giving you mixed signals and leading you on could really like you, but she may be a people pleaser or an attention whore who’s too worried what her friends may think of you *because she assumes you’re not good enough to show off to her friends* [Read: 16 attention whore signs to watch out for!If you’re in a complicated relationship with a girl who behaves like your girlfriend, but doesn’t want to date you, you’re definitely getting led on. ] Some people are just too worried about the world and what people think, and their happiness depends more on what others say and think than what really matters to them or what they need.Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.
You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.It’s true on e Harmony that the more people you communicate with, the faster you will find the person who is right for you.But while most of our users are very comfortable communicating with multiple matches online, they sometimes get a bit more hesitant when emails turn into phone calls that start turning into dates, and they find themselves going for coffee with Mike on Tuesday, bowling with Bill on Thursday, and to a movie with Steve on Friday.The new people I do meet are either fellow musicians I interact with at open mic nights or sometimes girls back from where I went to college.The problem with meeting girls through mutual friends at the college I went to, is that it’s about a two hour commute from where I live now. I went on two dates over the course of a month with one girl.Again, the commute isn’t great so it’s hard to see her frequently, although I did enjoy hanging out with her.