Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.
A very well-spoken and clearly an educated guy, he sent me a message detailing a situation with a girl he knew... The basic gist of today's post is, basically, that this -- what we're about to talk about -- is how you write online dating messages and emails that don't get ignored...
and, in fact, get you exactly what you want: responses, phone numbers, dates, and success.
A thought-provoking, fun, playful message that stands out from the crowd of “hey, baby what's up” and “hi” messages from all the losers who haven't read our blog. Make it easy for her to respond by asking a question in your message.
Once you come up with a few good ones, test them out and keep the winners. And here's where the copy/paste strategy comes into play.
Which is great news because sending emails is really the second step in the online dating process. after a year of doing this site, things are really taking off and we are heading in the direction I want to see us go in. I love the email below because this guy is sharing something that’s worked for him.
That means you guys are getting to the point where you have a profile that is working! My hope is that Hey man, I came across your site a few days ago after starting my second round of online dating this week.
To look at it a different way, using a template message is 75 percent as effective as creative a custom message, and a hell of a lot faster.
Of course, we here at Vi DA have been saying that since 2010, but it’s always nice to have an irrefutable data source on our side…If you want better results in less time, copy/paste is hands-down the way to go.(Further reading: This section of ‘Dataclysm’ reprinted on NYMag.com)Sounds great, but I still need a message…No, what you really need is an icebreaker.
But I would like to share a good first email that seems to work on more than half the women I try it on.
It’s a kind of “thanks” for the quality articles I’ve already read on this site.
In theory, online dating should be easy – browse through a catalog of photos and profiles, click on who you like, send a message and boom – start picking an outfit for your first date. Now on to the hard part…Time to start messaging some women.