Remaining in conflict is a sign of emotional immaturity and those couples who get stuck in a conflict stage fail to mature.These stages a sequence, except for the conflict stage where the couple go in and out of during their life.There are usually 7 stages of a healthy relationship. A static relationship is boring and can lead to the relationship breaking up.
Here is an article about the well-known “Cass Homosexual Identity Development” model that details this process.
In much the same way that as individuals we grow and develop, so do our relationships.
Life is all about development, evolution and progression, and as we go through this maturation process, there are often typical stages we experience as we continue to grow.
For example, you will likely recall you went through certain stages and phases of identity development as you came out to yourself as a gay man and started to come to terms with your sexuality.
No relationship on Earth can flourish if no effort is put in. Expecting feelings by themselves to keep a marriage together is unrealistic.
Conflicts are natural hurdles in our way, but they serve a important purpose.After bumping into each other at said friends’ gatherings, he finally asked her out on a date. For reasons only the Maker knows of, the two stopped talking after less than two months. Talking is just a period of time where you and your potential significant other see if you two are really interested in each other enough to exclusively date.Think of it like pre-algebra and being his girlfriend is algebra I. Talking is not permanent, nor does it prohibit one from seeing other people.While there are many similarities in the qualities and characteristics of relationships with our heterosexual counterparts, gay/lesbian relationships also have some unique differences and challenges that may not necessarily follow some of these other relationship theories. Mattison published “The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop.” The authors conducted a research study over the course of five years in which they interviewed 156 male couples in loving relationships lasting anywhere from one to 37 years.Alas, there is one such model that speaks to gay male pairings! Their intent was to discover how male couples function in everyday life in terms of domestics, finances, sexuality and relationship issues.We grow, mature and become better people in the course of resolving and working through conflicts.