So, here are 10 reasons you might despise your ex’s new girlfriend: Here’s the thing.Whether or not you like her, the woman is here to stay.
Sometime after parents separate and often before they divorce, at least one begins to date.That's generally healthy for the adults; it means they're moving on to the next phase of their lives. Marilyn daughters, Shana, and twins Alison and Rachel, were 4 and 19 when she and their father split up after almost 27 years.I’ll never forget the first time I ever met my ex-husband’s new girlfriend. That’s why when I did a poll on my Divorced Girl Smiling Facebook page last week, asking women to describe their ex-husband’s new girlfriend in one word, I was SHOCKED at the responses I got.She was beautiful, blonde, much younger than me, and the worst one: NICE! 4 positives: Amazing, caring, sweet, thoughtful 18 negatives: Pig, vapid, ruthless, disrespectful, butter face (which means nice body, ugly face—I had to look that one up), clueless, ignorant, 22, vicious, sloth, harmful, controlling, mouse wife, low-rent, android, yuck, whore, trash.He will tell you it’s because of his drinking, or because of his father, or because of the life that’s been handed to him.
He will list off all of the reasons for why he is the way he is as justification.
It’s all about the same initial attractions/commonalities.
If you think about it, it makes sense that the two of you would get along.
When I woke up from that nap, I downloaded Tinder.“How bad could it be? Funnily enough, despite Tinder’s reputation as a hook-up app, most people don’t want to meet soon after matching, but rather engage in hours of meaningless texting—about the latest trendy food hybrid, about how Brooklyn is so expensive—which is something I can’t stand doing with friends, let alone strangers.
But eventually, I matched with a handsome enough 30-something who was OK with skipping the small talk.
"You assume your kids understand that mom needs a life outside of them. "He asked about him almost daily, for months," she says. The problem is not that they get attached to a new person, but that exposure to a parade of new people creates the potential for more loss."At its heart, this is about trust," says psychologist Leah Klungness of Long Island, who specializes in single-parent issues.